This was supposed to be a different post.
I was going to talk about my visit to the RE and those three letters that I have been fearful to hear: IVF. It is time to think about moving on in our fertility treatments.
I was going to share my fears about the procedures (I'm a self-proclaimed wimp) but most of all, I was going to question whether or not we could even continue. You see, all treatments are out of pocket for us now - and as many of you well know, IVF is a big expense.
Yesterday, my colleague and I had lunch together. He and I work closely together and have done so for about three years. He's in his 50s, and Irish Boy and I have gotten to know him and his wife socially in our time working together. Because we work so closely, they both know what we're dealing with in the infertility world.
He and his wife have two grown sons. Wonderful young men who are off on their own now working and doing all the things young men should do.
But back to lunch. In short, he and his wife have offered Irish Boy and I a loan - no interest - to cover IVF. It's something that they have discussed and agree it's what they want to do. They know that we will pay them back as we can (and we would).
Internetz, what kept me from bawling through the rest of our lunch, I do not know. He asked me to think about it and, of course, discuss with Irish Boy. While he and his wife have not experienced infertility personally, they would like us to have all the opportunities that we can to become parents. They know, that with all IF treatments, there is no guarantee. But this, he said, gives us hope of what could be. I asked about his sons - not wanting to take anything from them - but was assured that they are able to do this and that there would be no affect to their sons.
As I type this, I continue to tear up at such an offer. This is money that they could no doubt use themselves to travel, renovate their home, buy a new car, you name it. But no, they want us to have access to it.
I tweeted about this yesterday and the overwhelming response was to take them up on their offer. This is a genuine offer - an offer from the heart with truly no strings attached.
What what you do?